"What are you smoking?"...literally

[math92]

So, today at school, I'm walking around the back of the building to get to my violin lesson, when I see my best friend leaning against the wall smoking who knows what. I can't ####ing beleive that my best friend smokes. We've been best friends since we were born and I dont know what to do now. Should I ask him about the smoking business or just ignore it. I'm afraid if I don't do something he's gonna smoke himself to death. Should I tell a teacher and get them to intervene. This whole thing just makes me sick. I like my friend, but whenever I look at him I think about him smoking. Help?

[ssgtGrimreaper]

Have you talked to him about it?

[denacioust]

What's wrong with you? Your friend smokes, big deal. He's not gonn go dying any time soon. If he wants to do that to himself then I don't see why you should complain.

[Syrito]

You should totally rat him out to his parents and your teachers. He'll totally appreciate all the trouble he gets for letting himself take his own choices on what to do and not do.

-_-

[Shataniska]

If you want,ignore him,if he wants you to smoke too,don't be coward and give him a no,because you know he's doing a bad thing.

[Spectral]

Unless he's smoking a Chinese sausage (one without the balls), I say let him be.

Smoking kills. But snitches get killed, too.

Think about that for a while.

[Darth Vader]

[...] I'm afraid if I don't do something he's gonna smoke himself to death.[...]

[...]This whole thing just makes me sick. I like my friend, but whenever I look at him I think about him smoking. Help?

Another impossible question. Here we go! Next time I get some psychology degree... lol

Ok basically you have 2 choices.
If the first quote prevails... go and stop him already! Smokes ARE killers, so tell everyone! Do whatever in your power for even if he won't like this, at least his life will be saved.

If the second question prevails, the problem is not of your friend but yours. Infact your friend inflicted some psychological damage to you. If anyone in this forums ever tells that the fact that he smoked doesn't concern you because he's free to do what he likes, ignore them. You must do exactly this: go to your friend and talk, say that you cannot accept the fact that he smokes. Considering that smoke is a drug, the friend will most likely say that it's his own business what he does and that's his life. Just reply: you can't be forced to stay with someone you know that smokes, it shocks you. Don't forget to mention you don't know what to do (but you wont' accept the things as they are and can't live with them) and the friendship can't exist in this situation. The friend may be lost but your inner peace perfectly recovered. Oh, in this case don't tell techers/parents etc.

[Vorobev]

You should talk to him about it or just ignore him.

If you want to keep your friend don't get parents or teachers involved, it will be the easiest way to ruin your friendship, he may even hate you if he gets in some serious trouble...

[Hex]

First off: He's smoking cigarettes, not snorting cocaine off of a dead hooker's chest.

The only time you should use the words "I can't ####ing believe that my best friend ______." is in the sentence "I can't ####ing believe that my best friend snorted cocaine off a dead hooker's chest."

Second: Bring it up casually if you really are that scared for him. Otherwise, don't stick your nose where it shouldn't go.

[MushroomMammoth]

Confront him directly, but never, never, tell people like teachers or parents. Just have a talk in four eyes.

[The Prodigal]

It's not your right to do anything, methinks.

It's his choice. You can't really be like dude, don't do it. Bt if he pressures you into trying them, then you can confront him.

[DarkReality]

Pardon? Not his right? What the ####?

"Oh you want to jump off a bridge? Go right ahead. I mean, I'm your friend 'n all, but it's not my right to stop you from killing yourself."

It's his good right. And I honestly don't care how many smokers here think it's "ok". Smoking WILL kill you. It's an addiction and a plain sign of weakness. Confront him, ask him what the hell it was about. Pressure him into stopping. He may not thank you now, but when he doesn't get lethal lung cancer with 40, he'll think about you. He's your friend and you have a responsibility to keep him healthy, alive and happy.

Don't snitch, just talk to him first. If he knows the consequences and he gives sound reasoning why he's doing it (not any of the "it's the cool thing" or "it's my life, damnit" bull####), then let him.

[math92]

Pardon? Not his right? What the ####?

"Oh you want to jump off a bridge? Go right ahead. I mean, I'm your friend 'n all, but it's not my right to stop you from killing yourself."

It's his good right. And I honestly don't care how many smokers here think it's "ok". Smoking WILL kill you. It's an addiction and a plain sign of weakness. Confront him, ask him what the hell it was about. Pressure him into stopping. He may not thank you now, but when he doesn't get lethal lung cancer with 40, he'll think about you. He's your friend and you have a responsibility to keep him healthy, alive and happy.

Don't snitch, just talk to him first. If he knows the consequences and he gives sound reasoning why he's doing it (not any of the "it's the cool thing" or "it's my life, damnit" bull####), then let him.

Alright. I think I'll take your advice. Thanks for helping guys.

[Area 51]

Don't narc.

[Screech]

Let him be.

Smokers never listen to non-smoker friends, we just don't. All they do is nag. You try nagging your friend out of it, and he'll only smoke behind your back.

If you have a huge problem with it, don't let him smoke around you.

As much as his health concerns you, its his health. No one in our generation is raised without knowing the dangers of smoking. But this stigma with smoking has its dangers too- alot of the greatest, most friendliest people I have ever met were smokers. Also, for example, at my school, chewing tobacco is quite popular because then they don't have to affiliate with us "dirty smokers". Its worse for you. People will always need a vice, and sometimes, you just need to let it be, or else they will go on to something worse.

[KattFire]

Being around a smoker really bothers me. It gets into their clothes and therefore, you can smell it, even if they're not smoking. Therefore, I belive it is his problem as well, if he's gonna be hanging around him. Now, I've known people that have smoked for a long, long time, and they came out just fine, living to be 70, and even 90 years old. It depends on the person of how it's gonna hit. I just know that I can't stand any smoke other than that of a wood fire, and that's it. (I love wood fires!) A smoker can get used to the smell, and if you're around it enough, you can too. However, if you're around him, and he smokes, the smoke might get into YOUR clothes, and make it look like YOU smoke.

[theryman]

What should you do? Ask him for one and light up yourself.

Don't be a dick about it. Don't. If you try to force him to stop smoking, you will lose a friend. It is his choice, so deal with it.

However, ##### at him for not telling you of it all you want.

[gufu1992]

I purpose to tell him what you leave him(:P) cause he's smoking...

[ccc.money]

Just confront your friend and ask him about.You guys are only 14,not a good time to start smoking.
Dont tell your parents or teachers,just ask your buddy about it,and see whats up.

[donthaveaname]

I had the same problem...
except he was they and smoke was pot....

[Dragonkil362]

Talk to him if yout his firend you cant let him down/ if he does not listen let him die or tell an adult it should be your last resort

[Iruleu]

Look, It probally hurts to know that your friend smokes. Especially if your not for smoking at all like me, well my 13 year old sister has been smoking since she was 10, i'm 12 dude, and I justfound out like 3 months ago, so I kinda know what it feels like too. But what I'm getting at is that you should talk to him...Also, look up the some of the Above the Influence commercials, they're really more about smoking weed than ciggarettes, but they should give you some ideas.

[I_Own_All]

I know how people smoke and it gets addicting and he'll probably call you a ##### for it, but you really need to tell him about how you feel about him smoking. One of my friends who I've known since I was about three years old smokes pot. She's been smoking since she was eleven. She got blazed on Stoner's day and was totally different since then. Cigarettes can't be much different. Smoke + Brain = BAD DUDE.

You need to stop your friend. It's too late for my other friend, she's already addicted and smoking pot and cigarettes now. You can't let that happen to your friend. Confront him about it and persuade him to stop. You NEED to make sure that he stops or else he'll end up all ####ed up in the future. It'll stunt his growth and learning capabilities. Rip his packs up if you have to, just make sure he doesn't light another one up. Please take some of the better advice, positive peer pressure is always better than negative.

Just make sure he DOES NOT smoke anymore. Buy him a patch.

[np v2.0]

She's been smoking since she was eleven. She got blazed on Stoner's day and was totally different since then. Cigarettes can't be much different. Smoke + Brain = BAD DUDE.Cigarettes and pot do not have the same effects on you. Pot gets you "blazed" or high. Cigarettes... don't. This friend won't be having any behavior changes.

[Woolfenstien]

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I smoke people.

[truesight3]

yeah, dont tell no parents or anything or he'll sneak them
u have to convince him urself

[I_Own_All]

Cigarettes and pot do not have the same effects on you. Pot gets you "blazed" or high. Cigarettes... don't. This friend won't be having any behavior changes.
They're still bad for you >.>;;

[Vorobev]

They're still bad for you >.>;;

Why you grave digged this thing?

[I_Own_All]

Because it's important enough? Your message was spam as well as mine...

[weremaster1]

Let him be.

Smokers never listen to non-smoker friends, we just don't. All they do is nag. You try nagging your friend out of it, and he'll only smoke behind your back.

If you have a huge problem with it, don't let him smoke around you.

As much as his health concerns you, its his health. No one in our generation is raised without knowing the dangers of smoking. But this stigma with smoking has its dangers too- alot of the greatest, most friendliest people I have ever met were smokers. Also, for example, at my school, chewing tobacco is quite popular because then they don't have to affiliate with us "dirty smokers". Its worse for you. People will always need a vice, and sometimes, you just need to let it be, or else they will go on to something worse.
you smoke i thought you knew better