She's 3 years younger than me, apparently

['lenin,]

Me and a girl from the school next door have been going out for three days, and it turns out she's been lying about her age. I'm in year 10 (I think the American equivalent is tenth grade, either way I'm in the age 14-> 15 year). When I asked her out admittedly I didn't ask her her age (as you don't) because she a) looks like a 14 year old and b) hangs around with lots of 14 year olds. That was Monday.

Tuesday, people are saying she's in year eight. I'm a little creeped and uncomfortable but I suppose it could work.

Today, people are saying she's in year seven, which makes her about 12. I'm very creeped and don't think it'll work.

She looks a lot older than she is and her sister says she has been raised with older boys. Even so, she does not seem quite at ease with me.

I need to know if breaking up with her is the right thing to do, and if so how to let her down gently. I'm not out to break her heart.

[Chimpy]

Why don't you just ask her how old she is? Don't say it to offend her though.

[Kravers]

The power of asking is very strong.

And besides, three days isn't very long, you can find another person.

[denacioust]

Three days? You're in too deep now.


Ah well, if she's old enough to pull them up she's old enough to pull them down.

[Jammer]

Well, age really does not matter. If your both mature enough for a relationship, and you are on the same level, whats the big deal? Many, many, many couples have huge age gaps when they begin a relationship. These gaps are uncommon at your age just because of the atmosphere of high school, but like I said, it really should not matter.

[denacioust]

My neighbours have a huge age gap. She's 53, he's 20. No joke.

[Kravers]

My dad is 72 believe it or not, and my mom is 36, beat that gap and call me.

[denacioust]

So he's twice her age? So when he was 2 she was 1? Thats not that big. And when she's 50 he'll be 100?

[Kravers]

No when my dad was 2 my mom wasn't born.

When my dad was 36 she was born.

[Danielle]

Well, why don't you 1.) ask her how old she is. And 2.) If she really is 3 years younger than you, consider how much that really bothers you. 3.) Ask her if the age gap is uncomfortable with her.

I really don't see anything wrong with it. Age isn't as big of a factor as maturity should be.

[Grunteh]

Just like chimpy said, Ask her what her age is in a non-offending way. And I if you truly like/love her, then stay with her, no matter the age, like in Fooly Cooly.

[Joest]

My grandparents have a 9 year age difference.

As long as you like her, it shouldn't matter much.

[Woolfenstien]

And I if you truly like/love her, then stay with her, no matter the age, like in Fooly Cooly.That being said, don't bang her untill she's of legal age. It may sound like common sense, but I've done wierd things myself when I'm horny, but I've never got far enough in any relationship to bang a girl.

[Kravers]

That being said, don't bang her untill she's of legal age. It may sound like common sense, but I've done wierd things myself when I'm horny, but I've never got far enough in any relationship to bang a girl.

That was funny, and besides, if my Dad is twice as old as my mom, you should be able to live with somone 3 years younger than you for crud sakes.

[Kevim]

My grandparents have a 9 year age difference.

As long as you like her, it shouldn't matter much.
Your grandfather probably wasn't 14 and your grandmother 5, were they?

Ask her her age.
3 years isn't that big of a differenc.e Girls tend to be a year 'ahead' of boys at this age anyways.
It has only been three days, bleh.

Eh.... I have nothing new to say.

[Joest]

Your grandfather probably wasn't 14 and your grandmother 5, were they?

Ask her her age.
3 years isn't that big of a differenc.e Girls tend to be a year 'ahead' of boys at this age anyways.
It has only been three days, bleh.

Eh.... I have nothing new to say.My grandfather met her in 1956. He was 36 and she was 27.

[ssgtGrimreaper]

...you have young grandparents.
I think my grandma was maybe 14 when she got married.

[The Prodigal]

It is a big deal right now. The situation right now, well you're robbing the cradle. Figure out exactly how old she is.

If it's a two-year difference, call her to coffee or something, and just put it plainly. You're too old for her right now.

[denacioust]

...you have young grandparents.
I think my grandma was maybe 14 when she got married.


Young? His grandfather is like 87. That's above the life expectancy I'm fairly sure.

[mattz1010]

Well men are less mature than women, on average anyway

about 3 years difference xD

so go on and factor that in.

[Halo007]

Well, age really does not matter. If your both mature enough for a relationship, and you are on the same level, whats the big deal? Many, many, many couples have huge age gaps when they begin a relationship. These gaps are uncommon at your age just because of the atmosphere of high school, but like I said, it really should not matter.By that logic, a 20 year old idiot may go out with a 12 year old because they're mature enough and on the same level. But yes, ask her first. And if shes to young for your taste, kick it.

[DarkReality]

Woah. Three days? Call a lawyer, have her sign the divorce papers right away!

She fecking lied to you. It doesn't matter if she's only a year younger. Lying isn't a way to start ANY relationship or friendship. Apart from a physical one... >_>

[Wolfman]

It doesn't matter how old (or young) she is. Love knows no boundaries.

[theryman]

It doesn't matter how old (or young) she is. Love knows no boundaries.
That is what Foley though, too.

OP, there are three things that are important to cultivating a good relationship. The first is trust. Now, since you have been going out (to where? The bowling alley?) with her for three days, you know just about as much about the girl as you ever will. So,if some of that is wrong, not good. The second is limits, personal limits. For example, as a junior is highschool and 17 years old, I will not date anyone who is not in highschool. That is just creepy. So, an age gap of three years when you are 14 and she is 11 is quite massive. Bail, buddy, bail.


Anyways, this thread tore you up.

[I.Like.Red]

If there's grass on the wickets, let's play cricket!
And whaddya guys think of a 1 year gap, between 13 and 14?

[Spectral]

>Grasp boiled potato in steadfast manner
>Lube potato up to maximum planar
>Stuff potato firmly up bumhole
>Light potato w/ match
>Fire potato @ gurl next door

[Frosty]

Me and a girl from the school next door have been going out for three days, and it turns out she's been lying about her age. I'm in year 10 (I think the American equivalent is tenth grade, either way I'm in the age 14-> 15 year). When I asked her out admittedly I didn't ask her her age (as you don't) because she a) looks like a 14 year old and b) hangs around with lots of 14 year olds. That was Monday.

Tuesday, people are saying she's in year eight. I'm a little creeped and uncomfortable but I suppose it could work.

Today, people are saying she's in year seven, which makes her about 12. I'm very creeped and don't think it'll work.

She looks a lot older than she is and her sister says she has been raised with older boys. Even so, she does not seem quite at ease with me.

I need to know if breaking up with her is the right thing to do, and if so how to let her down gently. I'm not out to break her heart.
Technically she didn't lie. Other people from school have been lying but not her.

[gufu1992]

I wanna see how this ends...

[Arca]

Really? I know how this will end. He's going to go "Meh" and do her. This is what's happening to my friend tonight lol.

['lenin,]

Really? I know how this will end. He's going to go "Meh" and do her.

Heh.

Nah, I bailed. I'm a coward :(

[Arca]

UNSUCCESSFUL!

Oh come on. Well atleast hook up with her later, like when your 17-18 then it's not that bad.

['lenin,]

Well if she still likes me, I will.

If she doesn't, I'll rape her ;)

[NightStalker_101]

tell her tht u joined a religion a while back where u arent allowed to date but u thought she was so pretty tht u broke the oath and now u r pleading for forgiveness by the saint

hey it could work