I'm falling apart.

[RocketSoldier]

First off, if anyone calls me Emo, I really don't care.


My life is going on a downward spiral. One of my friends died a few weeks ago, and my dog is very, very sick ;_;

That is not everything though. Over the past few months and weeks, I have been showered with school work, and I don't even understand the lessons we're being taught in Calculus thanks to our new teacher (and me). My parents can't help with anything since they never took Calculus. My grades are the lowest they've been in years.

My parents say I can never have a "B" on my report card, ever. ( I've had one in my life, my dad beat me senseless, and got grounded for 3 months. This happened when I was 10.) I currently have 1 A, 2 C's, and a B.

I've lost my work ethic. I'm not the smart person I once was. I've turned into a lazy, low-life dumbass. The only thing that isn't driving me to complete insanity is music, and (as sad as it may seem), this computer.

So my question to you, fellow Xgenians, is to how to get my life back on track. Which means getting my grades up, getting out of this depression, and getting my work ethic back.

Thanks for your help, all appreciated.

[Desperation]

Darling, I wish I could help you but I really don't have my life straightened up.
If ANYTIME you feel that you need to talk to me feel free to PM me, I'll try my best to help you.

[Mr. Anderson]

Put your average daily schedule on paper, look over it. See what might be taking more time than it should, what gets a "Why the hell is that on here?" reaction, and spend a bit less time on the computer. Provided you spend a lot to begin with.
Sit down with your parents and explain why getting B's and a C or two is fine. Tell them that the pressure to ace everything is just too much for you to handle, and they have to give some leeway.

[RocketSoldier]

Darling, I wish I could help you but I really don't have my life straightened up.
If ANYTIME you feel that you need to talk to me feel free to PM me, I'll try my best to help you.

Thank you vereh much.

Put your average daily schedule on paper, look over it. See what might be taking more time than it should, what gets a "Why the hell is that on here?" reaction, and spend a bit less time on the computer. Provided you spend a lot to begin with.
Sit down with your parents and explain why getting B's and a C or two is fine. Tell them that the pressure to ace everything is just too much for you to handle, and they have to give some leeway.

I will try to get this daily schedule going, thanks.

You don't know my parents (no offense). They won't agree; but it wouldn't hurt to try.

[Whois]

Keep a planner it really helped me.

[Honeycomb]

About your dog and friend, not much you can do about it. As for school work, ask your teacher for some private lessons after school for lets say, maybe 30-1hr. That's all I can really say.

Getting grounded for bad marks? That's ghey. Not everyone is ####ing perfect.

[gufu1992]

get off the internet kid.

[Choft]

Dammit! I already have a huge dislike for your parents. I've parents like that too. I don't understand why Bs aren't ok and it's not like I've taken any big exams. I feel sorry for you. I will try and help you if I can.

[Vagrant]

I know what life's like for you man. Unfortunately, I don't have a solution myself. My best suggestion would be to work smarter, not harder. Eliminate things that you don't need to do from your list, and focus only on what needs to be done.

[zakob]

http://www.understandingcalculus.com/ could help. You can also google the other classes you're having trouble with.

And if I were you, I'd sort of become a rebel and show your parents the pain and misery it can cause when they practically force you to get A's.

[XGEN-CRaZeD]

get off the internet kid.
I wish your parents are to be horribly killed by a murderer, and he throws you in a closet with the shredded corpses. And that coming from a 9-year old? "Omg u lil fatte, i am not 9 i am 13 so u cant say that." He has gone through more things in his life (Something you don't have) than you have ever had.


And Snare, I have been going through the same thing. I feel for you, man. What I usually do is stop everything.

[Jared]

If you think you have it bad just be in my life for a day.

[DevonTheGreat]

Just relax, man. It doesn't seem like you ever really have. Find some friends, find a front porch and just shoot the #### for like eight hours.

[Nick69pd]

Ouch, beat by your dad? Over a B? That sucks. I once thought that I was completely screwed. My life sucked a lot for a while and school was one of the issues. What exactly are you lacking, the subjects overall, homework, or tests? Your dog (I assume you and your dog are very close) getting sick may not be anything, it may go away after a while (it may be because of alergy seasion). If he really is as sick as you say then try to comfort him or something. You did take him to a vet, didn't you? As for your work ethic, you may need a break. Try asking/conincing your parents to let you skip school. If they are the understanding type (I assume they aren't) they may realize you need a break. Or, if you are good at forging signatures, skip school, but only do that if you can hide an admit slip or whatever from your parents. If they call your parents or something like that for a day of absence, don't do it or then you might really get a beating. As for understanding Calculus, mabye ask for Sylvan learning center (not sure if I spelt that right).

[Vagrant]

If you think you have it bad just be in my life for a day.

You don't seem to understand -- he has to work hard all day for 9 months without relaxing even a little bit. That's how hard classes can be. Believe me, I know exactly where he's at right now, and I have a similar problem. It's tiresome.

[Desperation]

If you think you have it bad just be in my life for a day.Please, sir?
You're life rocks compared to mine, unless you were used as a punching bag for more then 13 years you need not to complain to me.

[Kevim]

Please, sir?
You're life rocks compared to mine, unless you were used as a punching bag for more then 13 years you need not to complain to me.
No! My life is the worst! I get beaten with a bo-staff on a daily basis for not turning a female so my dad could breed with me. And then, after school all the kids always strip me naked, and bound and gag me and let donkey's have their way with me.

Neither of you know practically anything about the other's life, and no one cares much. If you guys want to whine, complain, get attention, and MAYBE get a bit of advice, make your own thread.

Back to YOU Snarespider. Don't stress out so much, call the police on your folks for beating you for such ludicrious reasons, and take a nap everyday.

Also, don't tell yourself you are "losing your work ethic". That will only encourage yourself to not do work.

You also are not lazy. The grades you are getting and classes you are taking are better then most students', no?

And why are you ashamed of using your computer as an escape? It isn't 'sad'. On the computer, you talk and communicate with friends and read and learn, play games, listen to music, wank. All of those activities are entertaining, and nothing anybody shouldn't partake in.

[Desperation]

No! My life is the worst! I get beaten with a bo-staff on a daily basis for not turning a female so my dad could breed with me. And then, after school all the kids always strip me naked, and bound and gag me and let donkey's have their way with me.

Neither of you know practically anything about the other's life, and no one cares much. If you guys want to whine, complain, get attention, and MAYBE get a bit of advice, make your own thread.

Back to YOU Snarespider. Don't stress out so much, call the police on your folks for beating you for such ludicrious reasons, and take a nap everyday.Dear, as much as your sarcasm amuses me I was stating that to cease the kid's view of what a "bad" life is.

[Jared]

Please, sir?
You're life rocks compared to mine, unless you were used as a punching bag for more then 13 years you need not to complain to me.
You don't even know what my life is like and yes I have been a punching bag among many others things which I won't discuss.

[Kevim]

Dear, as much as your sarcasm amuses me I was stating that to cease the kid's view of what a "bad" life is.
"Children in Afria"
"Pygmys in New Guinea"
"Desperation getting punched"

You know none of those are going to get through to him, you just wanted to outdo him. You know nothing of his life, it could very well be 'worse' then yours. And you shouldn't have judged him, or tried to shine the spotlight on yourself.

And now he is going to try to outdo you right back.

I wonder who is going to end up spewing more bull#### in a long, exaggerated essay that no one will read!

[Desperation]

"Children in Afria"
"Pygmys in New Guinea"
"Desperation getting punched"

You know none of those are going to get through to him, you just wanted to outdo him. You know nothing of his life, it could very well be 'worse' then yours. And you shouldn't have judged him, or tried to shine the spotlight on yourself.

And now he is going to try to outdo you right back.

I wonder who is going to end up spewing more bull#### in a long, exaggerated essay that no one will read!Yes, I want to outdo someone by bringing up that, no.
I understand I don't have it as bad as some people, that's why I no longer hang out with "emo" kids. Everytime I hear one of them say their life is the worst because they didn't get noticed by someone I end up wanting to kill them.
I merely bring this up because it often makes people shut up, and has made someone fall in love with their parents again.

[RocketSoldier]

No! My life is the worst! I get beaten with a bo-staff on a daily basis for not turning a female so my dad could breed with me. And then, after school all the kids always strip me naked, and bound and gag me and let donkey's have their way with me.

Neither of you know practically anything about the other's life, and no one cares much. If you guys want to whine, complain, get attention, and MAYBE get a bit of advice, make your own thread.

Back to YOU Snarespider. Don't stress out so much, call the police on your folks for beating you for such ludicrious reasons, and take a nap everyday.

Also, don't tell yourself you are "losing your work ethic". That will only encourage yourself to not do work.

You also are not lazy. The grades you are getting and classes you are taking are better then most students', no?

And why are you ashamed of using your computer as an escape? It isn't 'sad'. On the computer, you talk and communicate with friends and read and learn, play games, listen to music, wank. All of those activities are entertaining, and nothing anybody shouldn't partake in.

I knew someone whould post that. (The Africa part, anwyay) I really don't care either.

Thank you for your advice, It helps a lot.

[DarkReality]

7000 posts and you wonder why you're swamped with work?

Hah.

I really don't know what to say. What are you expecting? Are you planning on standing up for yourself? Do you want someone to wave a wand and make things better? Do you think there's some sort of secret formula?

Grow some balls, force people to respect you. Force your parents to respect you. Talk to your teachers, talk to a councilor. You're not going to love every class you have at school. Think about what you want to do when you finish school and try to find a connection to each subject.

But don't expect others to solve a problem for you. I dunno if you do or not, but don't ever expect it.

[Wolfman]

Just stop worrying. Grades aren't important. In truth, nothing is important. Everything in this universe is essentially pointless. We have no destiny to fullfill, and there is no "meaning of life". We are simply here because we are. All we are is molecules. Think about this, and eventually the light will shine on you, and your emotional burden will fall right off your shoulders. I used to have the same emotional problems that you did, but then I found enlightenment and I learned to become emotionally detached and apathetic. All there is for me to do now is to sit back and enjoy the ride, wherever fate may take me.

[Arca]

First off, if anyone calls me Emo, I really don't care.


My life is going on a downward spiral. One of my friends died a few weeks ago, and my dog is very, very sick ;_;

That is not everything though. Over the past few months and weeks, I have been showered with school work, and I don't even understand the lessons we're being taught in Calculus thanks to our new teacher (and me). My parents can't help with anything since they never took Calculus. My grades are the lowest they've been in years.

My parents say I can never have a "B" on my report card, ever. ( I've had one in my life, my dad beat me senseless, and got grounded for 3 months. This happened when I was 10.) I currently have 1 A, 2 C's, and a B.

I've lost my work ethic. I'm not the smart person I once was. I've turned into a lazy, low-life dumbass. The only thing that isn't driving me to complete insanity is music, and (as sad as it may seem), this computer.

So my question to you, fellow Xgenians, is to how to get my life back on track. Which means getting my grades up, getting out of this depression, and getting my work ethic back.

Thanks for your help, all appreciated.



Welcome to life my friend. Who ever told you life would be perfect, learning to deal with these problems is how we mature into adults, and these problems never go away, we just learn how to cope. First of all, if your taking calculas, it's time to take some controle. Talk to your parents, if they really think that will help you they might not be the best people to go for advice. I can't tell you that you'll get over it, because you might not, there is one thing I can tell you. #### happens. Understand why, and work on it. There is no such thing as impossible.

[Choft]

Wow. I never knew how bad eveyone's lives are. Or as they seem to put it. When I first joined. I thought everyone had their lives going for them. But now, it seems my life isn't that bad.

Gah I had a similar problems with work and parent, I thought about asking it here but I know that there was no point.

I guess you'll just have to wait it out and hope that it'll get better soon. Just don't give up and do what the others said. Heh, that's my advice, it's not great but hey.

[Lone Wolf]

Just stop worrying. Grades aren't important. In truth, nothing is important. Everything in this universe is essentially pointless. We have no destiny to fullfill, and there is no "meaning of life". We are simply here because we are. All we are is molecules. Think about this, and eventually the light will shine on you, and your emotional burden will fall right off your shoulders. I used to have the same emotional problems that you did, but then I found enlightenment and I learned to become emotionally detached and apathetic. All there is for me to do now is to sit back and enjoy the ride, wherever fate may take me.

I really couldn't have put that better if my life depended on it.:D

But, sometimes, life just gets better if you do that. I went through grade school TRYING to get good grades, and got Ds and Cs, but I went into High School and did exactly what WolfMan said, and now I'm an honor student.;) I didn't even come to XGen forums until about a month ago, so, unless telepathy had something to do with it, I didn't get taught anything...

Just go with the flow, but by all means, try, don't completely give up. Just ease up a little. Sometimes, if you stop struggling, your shackles will fall off your wrists, from hunger....

That's a metaphoric statement, by the way, the shackles representing anguish/problems, and hunger representing enlightment.

I hope I helped you..:)

[Scornic]

Just stop worrying. Grades aren't important. In truth, nothing is important. Everything in this universe is essentially pointless. We have no destiny to fullfill, and there is no "meaning of life". We are simply here because we are. All we are is molecules. Think about this, and eventually the light will shine on you, and your emotional burden will fall right off your shoulders. I used to have the same emotional problems that you did, but then I found enlightenment and I learned to become emotionally detached and apathetic. All there is for me to do now is to sit back and enjoy the ride, wherever fate may take me.

A lifestyle that that will get you in Juvey, or when you're older, jail. That's not what he needs right now. Snare, I understand where you're coming from. Everyone has their own struggles and hardships, and most people who say they understand your life can't really know, because every person has their own struggles. Sure I could get into how my life sucks, and try to make it seem like my life is worse then anyone else's, but to tell you the truth no one here should be competing over who has it worse. I have my own struggles, that have caused depression and, if it wasn't for my religion, I would have probably contemplated suicide. But when I think about it, I'm fortunate. No one has a perfect life, but at least I don't have some permanent life threatning disease, or some disfiguring problem with my body. As for your parents, you don't have to deal with them forever. When you're old enough you can move out and never have to listen to their rules again.

If you have to put up with this torture for a few more years, it's better then putting up with being handicapped or disabled for the rest of your life.

I hope this helps.

Edit: Don't take that part about the parents the wrong way. Every friend of mine that has ever lost a parent has told me to keep on good terms with them, and that they wish they could have reconciled with them. When you move out, whether it's to college or just to an apartment, leave on good terms. You'll have them to fall back on if sh*t hits the fan, and you won't regret anything it in the long run.