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[feeling fine]

I'm going to start at the beginning. When I was younger than 8 and started school I saw this girl. yes I was only younger than 8, but I really do think I was in love. The cool thing is she was so nice aswell. She could be fat, or have a disfigured face and I would still love her. If she was a boy then I would probably have turned gay.

Then I started high school I thought she wouldn't be there, but a few days in and I saw her walking down the hall while I was with my friends and I actually smiled for a few seconds and I couldn't stop. It was like someone was just holding my smile. I managed to stop smiling and she and my friends hadn't noticed me smile. When I got home I just couldn't stop smiling. I even smiled as I went to sleep. I was so happy.

A year or 2 into high school I had stopped thinking about her. Not because I didn't love her now, but because thinking about her was hard since I didn't want to tell anybody about this.

I became friends with a few girls and met a few girls I fancied, but my mind was back on the one I loved.

The GCSE exams started and I started to realise that she would probably be going to a different college than me. I mean I managed to go to first school (I think the school before high school is first school) and high school with her and I doubted it could be possible that we would be going to the same college. My idea was to do amazing in ever subject and get all As and Bs so then I could somehow find out which college she was going to then just do the same course as her, but it was a crazy idea and I decided to just do the course I wanted to do in the college I wanted to go to.

Finally I finished my exams and got the grades required to get in. I was pleased that I had got into college and didn't think much about the girl I love.

I've now been in college for a few weeks and about a week ago I found a list of the students going to the college. A few of my friends looked at it to see who got into the college and the I realised this was my chance to find out if she came here. I looked down the list and then I saw her name. I smiled and it was like in high school. I couldn't stop smiling. My friends noticed this time, but we were all smiling anyway.

I don't know if I should do anything about it, but the thing is this is my 3rd chance. I feel like destiny is trying to give me loads of chances and I shouldn't blow it.


I haven't gotten too detailed with some of the information since I don't want her to know I love her (or even want to go out with her) yet.


The main reason I posted this is because I just wanted to tell someone how I feel, but I didn't want to tell my family, friends or her because I just feel it can be better to tell a stranger that you will never see again instead of telling people I see all the time.


If you guys could give me advice on what you think I should do then please post here.

[Doug05257]

Further describe your interactions with this girl.

Were you friends with her, or just her stalker?

[feeling fine]

Further describe your interactions with this girl.

Were you friends with her, or just her stalker?

I talked to her quite a bit before high school, but I couldn't really talk to her in high school because I only really ever saw her when I was walking down the halls or something and I never really got the chance to talk then.

I did talk a few times to her in high school, but didn't really say much. It was basically:
her: hi
me: hi
her: how are you?
me: I'm alright. You?
her: I'm good.
me: well I better get to my lesson

We weren't ever really friends, but she was always nice to me.

[Eon26]

Well, when u see the perfect chance, take it :P like when u have luch or something.... there's no point in holding back if u really want to date her or something...

[feeling fine]

Well, when u see the perfect chance, take it :P like when u have luch or something.... there's no point in holding back if u really want to date her or something...
The big problem is that she had a boyfriend at the end of hgh school so she might still have one now. Also she might say no.

[denacioust]

The big problem is that she had a boyfriend at the end of hgh school so she might still have one now. Also she might say no.


Well...put it this way...which would you rather regret? Missing your chance, or taking it and not getting her?

[feeling fine]

Well...put it this way...which would you rather regret? Missing your chance, or taking it and not getting her?

well missing my chance would be terrible and I have had 3 of them so far, but the thing is 2 things could happen if I took the chance and she said no:
1. I would try to get her to like me then if she kept saying no I would stop
2. I would feel so bad and my heart would feel like it was being slowely crushed and then I would end up alone the rest of my life.

Then again if she said yes then it could be great and I would be incredibly happy.

[JoeyG]

Being rejected is far, far better than wondering "what if?".

[denacioust]

well missing my chance would be terrible and I have had 3 of them so far, but the thing is 2 things could happen if I took the chance and she said no:
1. I would try to get her to like me then if she kept saying no I would stop
2. I would feel so bad and my heart would feel like it was being slowely crushed and then I would end up alone the rest of my life.

Then again if she said yes then it could be great and I would be incredibly happy.


No...no,you wouldn't...believe me you'll feel bad for a while but time heals all wounds and you'll eventually move on...if you keep onto the idea that she will one day be yours while not making the move you will more likely end up alone...if you cling to her any other relationship you have will be distracted by your feelings for this girl...

[feeling fine]

Being rejected is far, far better than wondering "what if?".

I guess it is. I think I might wait a few weeks so I can get settled into college before finding her though since I do have a whole year.

The problem is she might have classes at different times from me. One of my friends starts when I'm only about 2 hours from finishing. Hopefully she is going to her classes about the same time as I go to mine. On monday I'll see if I can look for her on my break.

I've had so many chances now and college does seem like the best time to ask her.

[Nooby]

trust you instinks or something what a wise one would say yeahhh.. thats good!

[feeling fine]

once she did ask me if I fancied her and I said yes to her

I wasn't sure wether or not to say this before because if she read this just from chance then she would probably know who I was and things would become very awkward.

The thing is she might have asked me because she fancied me, but that was years ago and we were young then so things might have changed (I really hope not though).

[Lui]

Go for it, while you still have the chance.

[LordLegendZ]

I felt like you once before, but i dont have that many chances.

This could possibly be yopur last chance with her. Talk to her, be earnest about how you felt all this years, hang out with her. Best of luck, seize this opportunity. I cant even begin to tell you how luck you are to have three chances with her.


Good luck!

[feeling fine]

Ok, it seems my best choice is to go for it. If she doesn't want to go out with me then I guess I'll just have to find somebody else that I can love and if she does want to go out then I hope things go on well from there.

The thing is if me and her become good friends then I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship by asking her out. Maybe it would be a good idea to just ask her out, but I doubt that would work since you really need to properly get to know someone first.

[denacioust]

The thing is if me and her become good friends then I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship by asking her out. Maybe it would be a good idea to just ask her out, but I doubt that would work since you really need to properly get to know someone first.

No you wouldn't...You don't need to know a girl that well to go out with her...thats the whole fun of dating.

[feeling fine]

No you wouldn't...You don't need to know a girl that well to go out with her...thats the whole fun of dating.

yeah, but I would really like to get to know her more first. I guess I could get to know her on a date, but it would be good if I could find out if she had a boyfriend first.

[Doug05257]

Just hang out with her for awhile, if she has a boyfriend then you'll surely hear about it soon enough.

[DarkReality]

You could always try asking her out and seeing if she responds with "I have a boyfriend, sorry!"

But of course, direct communication is very difficult.

[feeling fine]

Just hang out with her for awhile, if she has a boyfriend then you'll surely hear about it soon enough.
Yeah, that sounds like a good idea.
Well I better go to sleep now since it's late and I don't want to be late for college

[Honeycomb]

If you want to spark everything say "Hey, dident we go to school togheter?" if she does not remember you, remind her about everything like when you furst met, old teachers, etc. then ask to be her study buddy or something. You will start being friends and eveuntally, you might even be going out with her.

Good luck.

[Karl]

You're in fecking college and you think you "loved" someone in kindergarten?

Wrong.

Go ask her out and grow up a little.

[feeling fine]

You're in fecking college and you think you "loved" someone in kindergarten?

Wrong.

Go ask her out and grow up a little.
I shall not take advice from somone who says "fecking" and it wasn't in kindergarten.

[denacioust]

I shall not take advice from somone who says "fecking" and it wasn't in kindergarten.


His advice really was the most solid piece of advice given to you in this thread. If you're in college and you're still obsessed with a girl you knew as a child then you really have something wrong. Perhaps it was love, but for Gods sake you're in college now, get yourself some balls.

[feeling fine]

His advice really was the most solid piece of advice given to you in this thread. If you're in college and you're still obsessed with a girl you knew as a child then you really have something wrong. Perhaps it was love, but for Gods sake you're in college now, get yourself some balls.

I have been trying to find her, but she must go in at a different time to me or something because I still haven't seen her. I hope she hasn't dropped out or anything.

[h00pla]

It couldn't be the fact that you're going to a frakking college could it? DO you realize how large those things are? Even the community college i'm going to is sprawling. Ten of my friends go there and the only time I see one of them is because we have swim conditioning together.

Unless you get a copy of her schedule you're obviously not going to see her going about your normal schedule

[feeling fine]

It couldn't be the fact that you're going to a frakking college could it? DO you realize how large those things are? Even the community college i'm going to is sprawling. Ten of my friends go there and the only time I see one of them is because we have swim conditioning together.

Unless you get a copy of her schedule you're obviously not going to see her going about your normal schedule
I doubt I would be able to get a copy of her schedule and if I did manage to get it then what if the office said I asked for it? That would be pretty bad for me and could completely screw things up. I finish my class at about 12:30pm usualy so maybe I could stay back for a few hours to look around and see if I can see her.

It probably will be pretty impossible to find her, but I've managed to get 3 chances and if I'm that lucky then maybe I'll see her tomorrow.

[denacioust]

It probably will be pretty impossible to find her, but I've managed to get 3 chances and if I'm that lucky then maybe I'll see her tomorrow.


Don't you ever go out? Go somewhere where everyone goes to and I'm sure you'll see her about.

[feeling fine]

Don't you ever go out? Go somewhere where everyone goes to and I'm sure you'll see her about.

I've been to about 4 places where loads of people go, but it's still hard. Haven't you been to college (didn't bother checking your age)? not only is it massive, but people have their courses at different times. Her course might start at 2pm or something.

[Espo Mk. II]

find here, talk to her and by the end of the year she will want to date you.

[Doug05257]

Oh god. Yes, best advice ever.

Sig'd.

[feeling fine]

find here, talk to her and by the end of the year she will want to date you.
My course is only a year long.

[Karl]

I'm going to start at the beginning. When I was younger than 8Dunno about you, but Kindergarten started for me at age 7. So either you were older than 8 when this started, or it started in kindergarten.

I'm not trying to be mean or anything here, friend, but this is really a simple problem when you get right down to it. Ask her out. RIGHT NOW.

As soon as you get a chance, ask her out and set a date. Problem solved.

When you spend time worrying about it, it just gets harder to ask her out in the future. Get to it sooner rather than later.

[feeling fine]

Dunno about you, but Kindergarten started for me at age 7. So either you were older than 8 when this started, or it started in kindergarten.

I'm not trying to be mean or anything here, friend, but this is really a simple problem when you get right down to it. Ask her out. RIGHT NOW.

As soon as you get a chance, ask her out and set a date. Problem solved.

When you spend time worrying about it, it just gets harder to ask her out in the future. Get to it sooner rather than later.
Oh well in England we don't have kindergarten (or we don't call it that). I thought it was some playschool or something. I did meet her in school when I was about 7 or 8 then.

I've been trying to find her, but it's hard. As I said to someone else it's a massive place and people go to their courses at different times.

Thanks for the advice.

[supasolidsnake]

I guess it is. I think I might wait a few weeks so I can get settled into college before finding her though since I do have a whole year.

The problem is she might have classes at different times from me. One of my friends starts when I'm only about 2 hours from finishing. Hopefully she is going to her classes about the same time as I go to mine. On monday I'll see if I can look for her on my break.

I've had so many chances now and college does seem like the best time to ask her.

You seem to have "Let her walk out of your life" syndrome, After the second time most guys shape up. But now is your chance talk to her go with her along with a few of her friends.

[I AM NOT A HACKER]

I'm going to start at the beginning. When I was younger than 8 and started school I saw this girl. yes I was only younger than 8, but I really do think I was in love. The cool thing is she was so nice aswell. She could be fat, or have a disfigured face and I would still love her. If she was a boy then I would probably have turned gay.

Then I started high school I thought she wouldn't be there, but a few days in and I saw her walking down the hall while I was with my friends and I actually smiled for a few seconds and I couldn't stop. It was like someone was just holding my smile. I managed to stop smiling and she and my friends hadn't noticed me smile. When I got home I just couldn't stop smiling. I even smiled as I went to sleep. I was so happy.

A year or 2 into high school I had stopped thinking about her. Not because I didn't love her now, but because thinking about her was hard since I didn't want to tell anybody about this.

I became friends with a few girls and met a few girls I fancied, but my mind was back on the one I loved.

The GCSE exams started and I started to realise that she would probably be going to a different college than me. I mean I managed to go to first school (I think the school before high school is first school) and high school with her and I doubted it could be possible that we would be going to the same college. My idea was to do amazing in ever subject and get all As and Bs so then I could somehow find out which college she was going to then just do the same course as her, but it was a crazy idea and I decided to just do the course I wanted to do in the college I wanted to go to.

Finally I finished my exams and got the grades required to get in. I was pleased that I had got into college and didn't think much about the girl I love.

I've now been in college for a few weeks and about a week ago I found a list of the students going to the college. A few of my friends looked at it to see who got into the college and the I realised this was my chance to find out if she came here. I looked down the list and then I saw her name. I smiled and it was like in high school. I couldn't stop smiling. My friends noticed this time, but we were all smiling anyway.

I don't know if I should do anything about it, but the thing is this is my 3rd chance. I feel like destiny is trying to give me loads of chances and I shouldn't blow it.


I haven't gotten too detailed with some of the information since I don't want her to know I love her (or even want to go out with her) yet.


The main reason I posted this is because I just wanted to tell someone how I feel, but I didn't want to tell my family, friends or her because I just feel it can be better to tell a stranger that you will never see again instead of telling people I see all the time.


If you guys could give me advice on what you think I should do then please post here.


well i guess your secret is safe with thousands of other people

but to get to the point just walk up to her on acident "drop ur books" when you see her infront of here and makse small talk then take it from there

[Alphaniner]

I shall not take advice from somone who says "fecking" and it wasn't in kindergarten.

Your loss. Naborr is one of the smart kids.

It sounds to me like you're being a drama queen. Go ask her out.

If she accepts: Hurrah!
If she declines: Kick her ass to Soho.

That simple.

[Mike Holiday]

Your loss. Naborr is one of the smart kids.

It sounds to me like you're being a drama queen. Go ask her out.

If she accepts: Hurrah!
If she declines: Kick her ass to Soho.

That simple.


Soho is a faraway place, with dragons and mystic faries. Good place to be.

[ltjm]

ask her out, you waited all this time what do you have to loose. Better to have tryed then to not of tryed at all.

[snoman99991]

By the time you get to college, casual dating is normal, so just ask her if she wants to go out for coffee (or whatever). Asking if she wants to catch up is entirely normal and doesn't even have to look like an aggressive move, so go for it!

If she had feelings for you at any time at all, she'll hang out with you at least. It would make sense that she'd at least want to see how you've been.

Good luck pal, follow your gut instinct.