i need help.....(with a girl)

[mguby814]

ok heres my problem........

how the heck do i start a conversasion!!!!
everyone of my friends are sayin start a conversation!
then i say "well what should i say?"
then they say "anything!" (biiig help =[)
soooo
what should i say? geez i realy need some help

[Lui]

You: Hey what's up?
Her: Not much.
You: Having a good day then?

Start from there.

[eatmorchikin6464]

Well, I'm guessing this is a girl at school, and a girl in your class, and hopefully she sits near you.

First off, you don't just START conversations, because that sounds lame. If she's sitting next to you, then you need to pick up a dropped pencil, answer a question, or even ask your own question.

Gradually over the course of the year, given that she actually wants to be your friend, you will start talking more. Because really, there are only several ways relationships start, and it seems like you are in position 1.

Position 1- You get to know someone gradually through minor conversations/interactions that grow as the two people become more accustomed to each other.

Position 2- Two parties become friends because they are both thrust into intimidating circumstances of sorts. This is like 2 new students in a class, or the only 2 boys in a class of girls.

The way I see it, it's pretty much impossible to become someone's friend by just striking up conversation. Just imagine it:

You- So...did you do the math homework last night?
Her- Yeah...
You- Cool...

Oh, and even though I'm sure you want to get to know her on MORE than a friendship level, I use the term friend throughout this advice, because you wont get anywhere with a girl at this age unless you are friends first.

[!War Hero!]

yeah i go with luiv, and also if your school has dances ask her to the dance

[AssaultRifle]

You: Hi
Her: (Hi, Hello, What's Up, -no response-)

Pick one of those choices and I will continue.

[mguby814]

hmmm ok but heres the thing i only have chorus and adv. math wit her....
but i dont sit near her in any of those classes

[Lui]

Or how bout' just saying hi and asking her how she is?

[AssaultRifle]

hmmm ok but heres the thing i only have chorus and adv. math wit her....
but i dont sit near her in any of those classes

Chorus?

You might as well go slam your dick in a drawer now.

[eatmorchikin6464]

hmmm ok but heres the thing i only have chorus and adv. math wit her....
but i dont sit near her in any of those classes

This is why you shouldn't listen to these other people that tell you to just strike up a conversation with her. I get the impression that you guys aren't friends, just know each other's names and therefore it would be TOTALLY awkward to pick her out of everyone to ask how they're doing.

Now, I might be saying this from a different stand point, so bear with me. Basically, I'm able to attract friends from all over the classroom, but that's most likely because of my outgoing personality. I talk alot and make jokes during class and teachers usually pick on me so everyone in class knows me and talks to me about stuff.

However, if you're not very outgoing and you don't already know this chick, the odds are against you, my friend. The best bet is is to just hope you guys get assigned to do a project together or a seat change or something.

[mguby814]

Chorus?

You might as well go slam your dick in a drawer now.


wtf???? comon just because a boys in chorus.....geez!


EDIT: update..... now in chorus she switched seats.... first she was 4 seats away then..... 8 seats away (half a row in the class room)

double edit: g2g for the night, ill read the other replies 2morrow

[Alphaniner]

wtf???? comon just because a boys in chorus.....geez!


EDIT: update..... now in chorus she switched seats.... first she was 4 seats away then..... 8 seats away (half a row in the class room)

double edit: g2g for the night, ill read the other replies 2morrow


Nope, he pretty much hit the head with a nail. *snicker* Or should I say drawer?

Just talk to her!
It's not that difficult. If you can't walk up to her and strike up some awkward about some trivial stuff, like the weather, then maybe girls aren't for you...


And use some grammar.


Pff, fine. I'll help.

Find out who she hangs out with. Try to find a guy she hangs out with, because you'll have to repeat this whole process if not. Hang out with him. Become his friend. You and her are virtually guaranteed to meet. Then, start talking, kid.

Oh, and chicks think good grammar is sexy....So, yeah, do that too...

<.<

[Lui]

So don't start with the Yoda talk.

[Halo007]

You: Hi
Her: (Hi, Hello, What's Up, -no response-)

Pick one of those choices and I will continue.Yeah he's going to bring a computer to school for dating advice on an online gaming forum...

Him: Hi

Her:... Um Hi?

Him: Can you wait a second?

Her: Yeah...

Him: (AR LEIK OMFG IM TOTATLY FLIPIN OUT SHE TALKIN TO MEH AND LOOKIN AT MY HOT COMPUTR SkilLZ!1!1!!1 WHAT SHOULD I SAY NEXT?!?1) Yeah one second... Just waitin' for a reply.

Before I continue are you

a) Fat or morbitably obese?

b) A ginger kid.

c) Someone who has no connections with anyone close to popular.

D) Four'8 in height (And width)

Or E) All of the above.

[Meek]

b) A ginger kid.
What's that one supposed to mean >.>. I'm a ginger and my social skills are fine.

I'd do what Alphaniner said and find a guy who she's friends with.

[Espo Mk. II]

pretend she is a guy and if you are talking to a guy, talk to her.

[h00pla]

because no one else has said it

Just go up and ask "Do you like anal?"

Reasons why it will work
1) Shows your self-confidence
2) If she knows of AR (and with his bragging who couldn't by now) she'll equate you with him, always a plus
3) who doesn't love anal?
4) Every list needs a five
5) And here it is

[AssaultRifle]

Yeah he's going to bring a computer to school for dating advice on an online gaming forum...
-post-

You never see my sarcasm, do you? xD

[mguby814]

o ya wow an 11 yr old wit anal............
school dance comin up.....
yes i am going to ask her
and um im neither of those loner
except im 4' 8" in height.... how did u guess?'
whatever anal is...

[Tan the coolest]

anal=bum sex

[mguby814]

ok i didnt need to hear that...

[Lui]

Yes you did. Its part of your road to being a MANLY MAN!

Yeah he's going to bring a computer to school for dating advice on an online gaming forum...

Him: Hi

Her:... Um Hi?

Him: Can you wait a second?

Her: Yeah...

Him: (AR LEIK OMFG IM TOTATLY FLIPIN OUT SHE TALKIN TO MEH AND LOOKIN AT MY HOT COMPUTR SkilLZ!1!1!!1 WHAT SHOULD I SAY NEXT?!?1) Yeah one second... Just waitin' for a reply.

Before I continue are you

a) Fat or morbitably obese?

b) A ginger kid.

c) Someone who has no connections with anyone close to popular.

D) Four'8 in height (And width)

Or E) All of the above.
Laughed for a good length there. Thumbs up to you.

[Masteq]

rofl...he didn't know wat anal is....HAHAHAHA
just talk to her.....pretend ur talking to ur best friend

[Popolop]

Just go up to her and say "Nice breasts. May I squeeze them gently?"

Why, do you ask, will this work? Because...

1) Saying "breasts" instead of "boobies" makes you sound mature.
2) "May" sounds more polite then "can".
3) Since you said "gently" she thinks that you're gonna squeeze them gently. But you're actually gonna bite them.

[Halo007]

What's that one supposed to mean >.>. I'm a ginger and my social skills are fine.

I'd do what Alphaniner said and find a guy who she's friends with.I'm not being mean all I'm saying is that you'll have to uh.. How to put this... Try to err... Just you have an unique look.

[Espo Mk. II]

surprise sex, then say "what kind of abortion pills do you like?"

[Doug05257]

ok heres my problem........

how the heck do i start a conversasion!!!!
everyone of my friends are sayin start a conversation!
then i say "well what should i say?"
then they say "anything!" (biiig help =[)
soooo
what should i say? geez i realy need some help
Tell them about little things that you think no one cares about. Like, if you had a test earlier on that day, wait until a conversation is almost over and then pop in and say something about the test.

Alternately (and this will probably work better for you), choose a topic that is related to the last topic that was discussed.

Of course, you could always just try speaking up in the conversations that they start. Then, they won't notice that you're not starting any because you're such a large part of theirs.

[Skellybones]

surprise sex, then say "what kind of abortion pills do you like?"ROFL

Yeah, I have like the same problem. I mean, I think it would be easy if I was in a conversation, but I'm not, and I don't want it to seem forced.

[Impulse]

From my experiences, "Anyone watch the game last night?" is a great conversation starter. You can't go wrong with, "So, what do you think of this music television?" for women.

[Halo007]

I wanted to post this for Birdo Killer very badly XD:

I find it so incredidibly funny that people want dating/sex advice from 220 pound ginger kids on an online gaming forum WHO are probably going like (Lets see Obi-Wan thou shall recieve what is unknown to our race called "dating" And "Sex". Maybe we'll play age of empires and find out *HIIIISSS*)

Birdo, you have not gone out with this girl for even a ####### month. You know how long it took me?... Thats not the point!... You need to ####### wait and stop thinking about sex, your fake girl friend and making unbeliveably bad posts. [sorryforflamingbutisthewayitis/] And another thing! You want dating advice go ####ing ask your imaginary friends because anything you'll recieve here is going to be illogical, harsh, immature from people who PROBABLY havn't even reached puberty yet. GOD... Alright I'm done. You didn't mean make out, and we know it.

Getting that out of the way, is this guy even paying attention to this thread? I mean really.

[Espo Mk. II]

^flame much?

[feeling fine]

Ths stuff is so much easier to do when you're like 7. When I was 7 it was like:
me: hi, we be friends?
kid: yeah

OR

me: hi, girlfriend?
girl: ok.

except when you're 7 going out with a girl means holding hands and that's about it.

[JoeyG]

You could just do the Office Space thing: "Hi, I'm Peter. What are you doing for lunch?"

[mguby814]

You could just do the Office Space thing: "Hi, I'm Peter. What are you doing for lunch?"

lol already know, eating lunch with her friends is what shes doing

[Honeycomb]

You could just do the Office Space thing: "Hi, I'm Peter. What are you doing for lunch?"

I always thought of doing it that way.

Get her to notice you or watch her carefully. Then one your all confident, next time you see her in the hallway, drop your binder and pencils on the floor and say "Oh ####." she might help you pick your stuff up. If she doesent, during lunch, sit near her.

[JoeyG]

I do the Office Space thing to the extreme: show up with a stupid smile on my face and a long-sleeved shirt that's too long for me, wander around the school during class time ignoring teachers, and being incredibly cynical about work.

So, it's a logical extension for me to ask a girl out that way. If she's having lunch with her friends, walk up to her and say "Hey, Joanna. I'm Peter. Do you want to have lunch with me?"

I've tried it without changing the names. It doesn't work that way.

[Eon26]

What's that one supposed to mean >.>. I'm a ginger and my social skills are fine.

I'd do what Alphaniner said and find a guy who she's friends with.



Gingers have no SOULS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If ur in math with her, then whenever ur teacher tells u to check HW with a partner or some #### like that, u can get up and partner with her.. easy as that -.-

[JoeyG]

If ur in math with her, then whenever ur teacher tells u to check HW with a partner or some #### like that, u can get up and partner with her.. easy as that -.-

Nobody believes you're in school. After five seconds of English you'd learn to spell legibly.

[Eon26]

trolling much??? ^^^

[LordLegendZ]

Xgen needs to stop corrupting the young with words like anal and breast squeezes... =D

If you want to make something work, ask her to do something with you that needs some time, make eye contact, talk to her regard the work, and then when doing work, turn the convo to something else so as to get her interested in you. Or if you see something that she needs help in, order her your help.

[mguby814]

Gingers have no SOULS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If ur in math with her, then whenever ur teacher tells u to check HW with a partner or some #### like that, u can get up and partner with her.. easy as that -.-


we never check homeworkwith partners in math703 (Advanced math)