Please help.

[super_dark]

My aunt ,who i am very close to, recently just tried to commit suicide in my own house. After getting her to the hospital, i have been depressed, i can't sleep, eat my favorite foods, or get out of bed if i get some sleep. She swallowed a bunch of tylenol pm's so out of rage i threw all of the pills into my fireplace and burnt them, then i couldnt stand to think of her anymore... I ended up throwing the picture of me and her when i was five at the wall. It shattered and ruined the picture completely. She did get out of the hospital, but now is in a rehab center that won't allow any communication. I just want to stop feeling depressed and be thankful she will be out in a couple years. But how do i do that?:(

[H1TWOMAN]

It sounds like you have had a lot to deal with, depression is a natural response to a major life crisis or upheaval, but try not to isolate yourself. Talk to somebody you feel you can trust, they may have experienced similar feelings themselves - either way, you'll feel better for having opened up. Feeling sad or angry is a completely normal way to react to experiences that are upsetting, stressful or difficult but if you find that you aren't feeling any better you should make an appointment with your doctor.

[super_dark]

I'm amazed no one else will atleast try to help...

[Lokigen]

You don't want to deal with a crisis all at once. You'll feel overwhelmed, and kinda like you're feeling now. What I do when life takes a turn for the worse, and trust me, I've been through plenty of these kinds of things, is gain my ground back by going into auto pilot. You gotta take your mind off of it until you're emotionally stable. So just get cought up in your regular life, and focus on that, never give yourself a moments rest to think about it. Once you start feeling normal again, which could take some time, you can start to address the issue in whichever way you like. It will be much eaier to deal with when you're stable and you'll be able to view the matter in a more objective way.

[super_dark]

i guess that is one way...

[DarkReality]

Being cliché about it won't help. Instead of directing your anger at inanimate objects, try to understand why she wanted to take her life. Pushing back the problem until you can look at it objectively shouldn't be an option. If you can look at a family member who is close to you trying to take their own life objectively, then there's something terribly wrong with you. If that feels like too much for you at the moment, then find people who are going through similar things. Or who went through similar things (as in real people, not internet people). If those people don't exist, then try to find a self-help group for people who tried to take their lives in order to better understand why they would try to.

What kind of a rehab clinic doesn't allow any communication? Are you trying to tell me she's not allowed to communicate with the outside world for a few years? And since when is the rehab for a suicide attempt several years? It'd be pretty heartless to not believe you, but I have trouble believing that a rehab clinic would cut off contact to loved ones for someone who tried to take their own life. That seems a bit counterproductive. Not to mention that they probably don't have that right to begin with. Even death row convicts can contact their loved ones.

[super_dark]

but i doubt death row people are suicidal, it's dumb, i was only informed that it is a rehab center and apparently they dont allow contact. But lucky for me i can visit... but i feel i can't stand to see her...

[Lokigen]

If you can look at a family member who is close to you trying to take their own life objectively, then there's something terribly wrong with you.

Wow, so the ability to handle the death (or near death) of a relative like I handle the deaths of random African children (because they aren't that much different) makes me crazy. Didn't know that. I was always of the disposition that death is a part of life that's unavoidable, so it shouldn't be harped on so much. But apparently I'm just mentally ill because I don't cry when I'm at a funeral. Thanks for the diagnosis "DR." now could I see your medical diploma before I decide to go fill my prescription?

[denacioust]

Yeah, you've got a good point Lokigen, suicide is an unavoidable part of life, we all go that way at some point in our life.
You know that's what DarkReality said, and that he was talking about suicide so stop trying to start arguments with people.


I'm not even going to try offer any advice on the topic because I've never experienced anything even comparable to this.

[super_dark]

Yeah, you've got a good point Lokigen, suicide is an unavoidable part of life, we all go that way at some point in our life.
You know that's what DarkReality said, and that he was talking about suicide so stop trying to start arguments with people.


I'm not even going to try offer any advice on the topic because I've never experienced anything even comparable to this.

Well thanks for telling us anywat

[Ace2cool]

Tough times kid. We all go through them. Stiffen that upper lip, stand strong. Don't let this incident drag your life down. You just have to keep going.

That's as plain and simple as it gets.

^^^ 666th post btw.

[DarkReality]

Wow, so the ability to handle the death (or near death) of a relative like I handle the deaths of random African children (because they aren't that much different) makes me crazy. Didn't know that. I was always of the disposition that death is a part of life that's unavoidable, so it shouldn't be harped on so much. But apparently I'm just mentally ill because I don't cry when I'm at a funeral. Thanks for the diagnosis "DR." now could I see your medical diploma before I decide to go fill my prescription?

If you can look at a family member who is close to you trying to take their own life objectively, then there's something terribly wrong with you.

If it stops bothering you that someone you were supposedly close to has enough reason to try and take their own life without even dropping a hint to you or anyone else then yes, there's something wrong with you. As Denacioust said, I made a point of mentioning the cause of death. Accepting death is a completely different thing. You see the deaths of african children in the same light as you see the deaths of your own relatives or friends? That seems a bit emotionless and empty.

If someone needs a diploma to know what they're talking about, then what are you doing giving advice, anyway?

[super_dark]

She would of been killed of an overdose

[Lokigen]

If it stops bothering you that someone you were supposedly close to has enough reason to try and take their own life without even dropping a hint to you or anyone else then yes, there's something wrong with you. As Denacioust said, I made a point of mentioning the cause of death. Accepting death is a completely different thing. You see the deaths of african children in the same light as you see the deaths of your own relatives or friends? That seems a bit emotionless and empty.

If someone needs a diploma to know what they're talking about, then what are you doing giving advice, anyway?

I'm just saying that your staements don't carry anymore weight than if I were to say that there's something terribly wrong with you for getting all teary of some one you know trying to take your life.

Don't run around calling people eff'd up just because they're different from you, I'm not the one asking for advice here, so keep your #### to yourself. I told how I deal with #### like this and it works damn well for me, so if you wanna cry about it, that's your business, but don't come in here saying I need help just cause I can do something most people can't do.

[DarkReality]

And I said what I think of how someone should deal with it. I wasn't even referring to you. I was neutrally stating that it might not be that healthy to shrug off a suicide attempt of a close relative.

Calm down and quit being so insecure about other people's opinions. What do you care what someone online thinks of you?

[Lokigen]

And I never said shrug off, did I?

[denacioust]

Guys, quit the silly bickering or you both will be served with infractions. This thread is about someone asking for advice, not a debate over which way is the right way to deal with a death.

[DarkReality]

Yeah, you've got a good point Lokigen, suicide is an unavoidable part of life, we all go that way at some point in our life...

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[Espo Mk. II]

Ironically, the song Basketcase by Green Day is playing whilist i am reading this thread. And its on shuffle.

I think you should just take your mind off it for a while, and maybe start doing some extra curricular activities or sports. It will help you concentrate on something else.

[Lokigen]

I'm not even going to try offer any advice on the topic because I've never experienced anything even comparable to this.

You're right, this thread is for advice, not for you to state your uselessness on a topic, by not posting your uselessness is implied anyway. So unless you have any real advice to give for this particular topic, you probably shouldn't be posting here either. If you want to give advice on Dark Reality's and my posting strategies, I'll be more than happy to make a thread for you. So yeah, either stop bagging us for disregarding a principle that you yourself ignored, or post something at least remotely useful for friend Super_Dark here. you should probably threaten to give yourself an infraction before waving your Mod badge in front of us. And no, I'm stating right now that this is not a troll, I actually am just making a statement and this statement actually doesn't even need a reaction, I just wanted to voice my concern with your logic. You will also be unable to change my opinion on this, so don't even try. Therefore, since I'm not wanting a response from you, this can in no way be a troll. This is also not slanderous since I'm not saying anything other than fact and opinion, which are completely legal. And I'm serious about the thread offer, that wasn't sarcasm. Well maybe a little bit, but I'll do it if you wish because nothing really happens here that much anyway.

[MonkehLawd]

omg guise, you're so inconsiderate. arguing should not go on in these types of threads. advice and help only, and hardcore debates and butthurtedness in pms. like wtf omg rly.

[tigerx102]

My aunt ,who i am very close to, recently just tried to commit suicide in my own house. After getting her to the hospital, i have been depressed, i can't sleep, eat my favorite foods, or get out of bed if i get some sleep. She swallowed a bunch of tylenol pm's so out of rage i threw all of the pills into my fireplace and burnt them, then i couldnt stand to think of her anymore... I ended up throwing the picture of me and her when i was five at the wall. It shattered and ruined the picture completely. She did get out of the hospital, but now is in a rehab center that won't allow any communication. I just want to stop feeling depressed and be thankful she will be out in a couple years. But how do i do that?:(

This is not an irrational feeling to have, and that is where it begins. You have every right to be suicidal yourself, angry, manic, insomniac, whatever. Just, please, don't tear the whole house up for when you aunt does recover :) Be a good boy and smash up the XBox 360.

Seriously, though, I'm sure the rehab center will change up visitation limits soon as your aunt is in a stable piece of mind (it was probably for her own good, BTW, so please understand that). You need something to take things off your mind (pets [my favorite], Super Smash, shooting a 12-gauge, shooting a 12-gauge at your father's in-law [no, j/k, don't do that], smashing your head into a thin wall); otherwise, you'll still be as depressed as you were when it begun.